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Many people who identify as simps or subs often feel ashamed or embarrassed about their desires especially when it comes to seeing a woman as superior, serving her, or embracing a submissive role. Society tends to stigmatize these feelings, making it seem like something to hide or be ashamed of. But the truth is, if serving a woman, being her simp, or feeling fulfilled by being controlled and submissive is what you genuinely enjoy, then there’s absolutely no reason to feel shame. It is what it is.

For example, I’ve always been a simp. At first, I felt a little embarrassed about it, worried that others might judge me for wanting to put a woman first or for enjoying a submissive role. But over time, I realized this is simply who I am. Accepting that has been freeing. There’s nothing wrong with finding fulfillment in serving, respecting, or being controlled by someone you care about. It’s a personal preference and a valid way to connect.

So, if you’re someone who thrives in that dynamic whether it’s serving, submitting, or just being devoted own it confidently. Never be ashamed of what makes you happy.

Gonna be short and to the point, im in a happy relationship with an amazing girl and its been a while since my last send but i still get urges and cravings and on occasion i scroll through findom reddit/twitter to get off and it helps in the short term but long term i wonder if i messed up my brain by getting into something as extreme as this, like its hard to picture now that at one point the thought of sending money to a random girl online was a hard no and seemed crazy and it feels so normal now. Anyone else in the same boat?

In the past few months, I have found a very controlling dom. She keeps me in chastity, regularly humiliates me by having me do all sorts of degrading tasks. She monitors my devices for everything I do, and even locks me out of stuff when she feels like it. And absolutely drains me. I do t know why I love it so much.

I just bought a coffee.

The barista was kinda cute and seemed to appreciate that I paid for it.

The order was fast and correct!

She told me to have a nice day and smiled when she handed me my coffee.

I think she wants to be my domme, how much should I send?

I was with my co-workers and we were all just chatting and having fun, but then this guy brought up financial domination when he was making fun of another guy who said he was happy to pay taxes. It turns out a few of them knew what it is. One girl was asking a lot of questions and another of the women seemed to know a lot about it (she said she had seen a documentary – is there a findom documentary out there?) and the guy who had brought it up kept making jokes. I was so mortified, I acted dumb the whole time but I’d been drinking and I was so afraid I was really obvious. I felt like I must have been blushing. I managed not to admit to them that I was a finsub, in a drunken stupor, which is good, I’ll be able to make eye contact with them going forward, but still, what an awkward incident.

You’ve got 500 dollars after tightly budgeting, how are you spending it?

One time 500 send to your favorite Dom?

100 to your top five

Lots of tributes

What’s up guys. I joined Reddit not too long ago to check this community out and be around other people who understand this issue, because there really aren’t many people who get this stuff.

I’ve been a couple months since my last relapse, which is good considering I’ve spent thousands this year and I get triggered pretty easily. But l’ve done this so many times now. I’ll make it a couple months in, feel like I’m doing okay, and then I end up falling back into it.

At this point I honestly feel like I just don’t have the mental power. I’m really not trying to be negative about myself, but dommes are just simply more powerful than me with their minds, bodies, and intelligence. It feels like a losing battle, and I feel outmatched.

When I first got into findom, I thought the whole “women are superior” thing was just a phrase for roleplay and the fantasy of it. Now I without a doubt see why people say that.

Even just seeing attractive women in public increases my urges to relapse. Then that combined with my loneliness i get triggered easily. I’ve really tried staying busy, focusing on willpower, working out, eating better, stuff like that. It helps for a little while, but honestly it’s not helping as much as I thought it would.

I’m just wondering if anyone else has felt like they’ve come to the conclusion that maybe they just mentally aren’t strong enough to fight, or if this is more of a personal issue I need to approach differently?

Id like to pretend i have a friend. Like im in the friendzone of a cute lady friend. Someone i adore. Someone who might share the odd pretty selfie, knowing their teasing and enjoying the torture, all while coming across as a friend… id like to take an actual interest in someone, share the wins and celebrate them all while knowing im not on her level and never stand a chance…

Does that ever exist? Or even similar? On the side of softer domme maybe…

Or is it all, GFE/hard domme/unethical?