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Over the past several years, there has been a specific user among us. This individual is a self-proclaimed “Domme”. Boasts about having decades of experience and “teaches” students. Most of whom are new to findom and the Reddit community.

They seek out specific types of Dommes and lure them promising mentorship and success. Taking them in as a student, in order to get close to and exploit them. Enticing them into sharing sensitive photos and videos. All the while portraying themselves as a woman.

When they are not. They are in fact, a man.

This user is BadGirlAddict

Their descent into depravity started five years ago. However, on another account. Under the screen name incel_4_darktriad, this person frequented various subreddits. All of which centered around personality disorders. Such as; NPD, BPD, and ASPD. Seen in the four photos below.

incel_4_darktriad account (photos)

This person under incel_4_darktriad made a plethora of posts on these subreddits. Obsessing over women with personality disorders and wanting to be “destroyed” by them. Sexualizing their personality disorders to a concerning degree. See photos below.

incel_4_darktriad posts (photos)

In a couple of comments, incel_4_darktriad mentions that he is, in fact, male. Talking about how he fixates on women with dark triad traits; and how he wishes to serve them. Craving to feel inferior to them. See below.

incel_4_darktriad comments (photos)

Over time, users on these subreddits began to call him out on these posts. Expressing their disgust and discontent for them. As time passes and users had enough of his strange fetish posts, he makes his final post under the name incel_4_darktriad

Around the time of his last post, another account was created. This account is still used to this day. This newly created account is BadGirlAddict. The first posts on this new account were also made on the personality disorder subreddits.

The first few posts from BadGirlAddict mirror the posts from the previous account, incel_4_darktriad. Take notice that both accounts are the same age. Here’s a side-by-side comparison. See below.

Side-by-side comparison of posts between BadGirlAddict & incel_4_darktriad (photos)

It is suspected that he created the new account BadGirlAddict as a way to avoid backlash from his odd fetishization posts. The most conclusive link between the two accounts comes from a comment on BadGirlAddict’s post below.

This post was made in the sociopath subreddit. Asking users if female sociopaths “get off” on hurting their partners. A user commented, noticing the strange behavioral link between BadGirlAddict and incel_4_dark triad. See photos below.

Comment left under one of BadGirlAddict’s first posts (photos)

In the text samples below, side-by-side, you can see the same pattern of typing between both accounts. Patterns in terms of punctuation and spacing. One prominent feature displayed in comments from both accounts is the use of double or triple spacing. See examples below.

Similar text patterns between both accounts (photos)

Another commonality between the comments from these two users is their use of “ – – “ and single ‘ (See example below)

Similar text patterns pt. 2 (photos)

Shortly after BadGirlAddict’s first few posts on this account, the incel_4_darktriad account seems to have been abandoned and inactive since. This was five years ago. Since then, he has been operating on the BadGirlAddict account.

Over a period of time, BadGirlAddict started proclaiming themselves to be a “Domme” with “30 years experience”. He started calling himself “Julia”. Claiming to have started a school for Dommes on TikTok and taking in students. Teaching these students how to market themselves, skills on findom and promoting their content. See below.

“Julia” who claims to be a veteran Domme with decades of experience who has a TikTok school for Dommes and “teaches” students (photos)

None of these claims have any evidence to show that this “Domme” nor this school for Dommes are legitimate. Unfortunately over time, “Julia” started reaching out to specific types of Dommes on Reddit.

Dommes with sado-maso kinks, unethical style, who also feel estranged from the Reddit findom community. Dommes who feel othered and looking for Domme friends who will validate them. Most of these Dommes are new to Reddit. Desperately seeking friends and community where they can fit in.

Even more disturbing; “Julia” also specifically reached out to mostly younger Dommes. Dommes who are in their 20’s, especially early 20’s. Always seeming to prioritize younger Dommes who are eager for a mentor.

Knowing that these younger women are more vulnerable and easily manipulated. Therefore making it much easier for him to gain attention and sexual gratification from unsuspecting women. While hiding behind the false identity as a woman, and a veteran Domme.

“Julia” reached out to these Dommes via comments or DM’s. Flattering, lovebombing, and fixated on one specific theme.

The “gene”, the “gift”, the “power”.

These are particular words he uses when complimenting Dommes. These words are in reference to the way in which the Domme presents herself. A way that this man fetishizes. Evil, unethical, and sadistic personality types. Even more so, Dommes with personality disorders.

“The gift” “the power” (photos)

After communicating with these Dommes and gaining their trust; he invites them into his own subreddit. Encouraging these Dommes to post in his subreddit, with promises of enticing more subs.

It is suspected that BadGirlAddict is also behind other accounts. Pretending to be subs that send to other Dommes. He allegedly uses these accounts to stalk new Dommes, messaging them. Also encouraging them to join BadGirlAddict’s subreddit. Several Dommes in my research shared that they have been approached by suspicious finsub accounts. All of whom act and spoke in the same manner as “Julia”

When messaging these Dommes under sub accounts, he also expresses these Dommes having the “gene”, the “gift”, or the “power”. Giving evidence to suggest that BadGirlAddict is also behind these accounts. These accounts are always new and delete suddenly.

“She” claims to not send photos of themselves or do sessions. However, there is evidence to suggest that “she” has sent pics of themselves to these Dommes. BadGirlAddict allegedly catfishes Dommes using a myriad of methods. Using stolen photos, AI generated photos and videos, or taking content from other Dommes claiming them as “her” own.

During this investigation, I reached out to several Dommes that were in contact with BadGirlAddict to ask about their experiences. Inquire on whether “Julia” has sent any pictures or video of themselves. One Domme I corresponded with shared evidence that “Julia” had sent photos of another woman, claiming the woman in the photo to be “her”.

The photo in question was entered into a reverse image search; and was quickly proved to be a fake photo that was found elsewhere online. See evidence below

“Julia” catfishing with stolen photos (photos)

Thereby proving that “Julia” uses fake photos in order to catfish.

It is also noted that “Julia” has lied about “her” age in several different posts. Claiming to be 40, 46, 47, and 48 years old all in the span of one year. See below.

“Julia” having four different ages in the span of one year (photos)

All this so he could gain the trust of these Dommes. In order to exploit them for his own sexual gratification. Fulfilling his own unique fetish; of being close with these sadistic unethical Dommes. All the while obscuring his identity and masquerading as a Domme.

His victims, not knowing otherwise, truly believed the woman they are talking to is legitimate. A real mentor who could provide a great start into the world of findom. Whom they unfortunately trusted and shared intimate aspects of themselves.

Allegedly, these Dommes have shared intimate photos of themselves with “Julia”. “She” would entice these young Dommes to practice on “her”. “Julia” then makes weird, strange comments under Domme’s posts. Making odd comments about their bodies and emphasizing the age difference. Claiming to not chase after women that young; however “she” always seems to be reaching out to young Dommes and gooning over their bodies and age gap. See below.

“Julia” behaving creepy with young Dommes obsessing over the age difference (photos)

In case it isn’t obvious, women do not talk like this. This all reads like a horny, obsessed gooner with a specific fetish for turning young women into Dommes. Fetishizing the age difference and how he has essentially “fallen under their spell”. Despite the fact that he approaches them first. Either directly or through a fake sub account.

Another inconsistency that is noted in the text samples above. “Julia” claims to be 48 years old, yet claims to have great-nieces the same age as this Domme. If true, then it’s led to believe that the man behind this “Julia” character is even older than he is letting on.

This individual has been around findom and femdom subreddits for years. Targeting and manipulating Dommes, and subs who believed that he is a woman. All of this happening in plain sight, in front of our own eyes. Yet this person has been doing this, going completely unnoticed, for five years. FIVE YEARS.

The Reddit findom community constantly debates ethics and morals. While allowing and enabling a covert predator to hide in plain sight. It is shocking that it took five years to question and expose this individual. They left a long and complicated paper trail that leads to their true identity, a man.

A creepy, desperate, man who; fetishizes women with personality disorders, preys on inexperienced new Dommes, manipulates and lies about his identity to get infinite goon fuel from unsuspecting women, and hides behind the false identity as a woman and Domme.

To all the victims of this individual, both Dommes and subs; I am deeply sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve to get used and lied to. This person is a serious predator who has been doing this for five years. Possibly longer, but that isn’t known. I hope that you are able to seek help, take a break, or do whatever is necessary to heal.

BadGirlAddict, if you are reading this, shame on you. It is absolutely abhorrent that you have kept this facade for so many years. Taking advantage and using findom and femdom spaces in order to manipulate women for your own disgusting fantasies. Hiding behind the identity of an old-school female Domme mentor that “teaches” students.

Your days of this are over. You have been caught. You have been exposed. You are DONE. Leave the internet and never, ever, EVER come back.

An account has been popping up in my X feed lately that really resonates with me. Here is their latest post as a sample

“Being a Dom isn’t about how much a sub obeys you.

It’s about how you protect what’s been given to you.

Showing up daily, upholding rules, creating a safe environment and supporting structures.

Responsibility is the price of authority. If you can’t pay it, don’t take the role.”

I’d love to give credit to the creator, but don’t want to violate the no promoting anything rule.

I’m curious though. Does this resonates with anyone else? And do you feel like it’s a common attitude for Dom/mes to have?

This is meant in good humor, not to shame anyone.

I’m curious what’s the worst or most cringe sub behavior you’ve encountered?

Awkward approaches, instant devotion, unsolicited “tributes,” over-the-top messages, etc.

If you’re comfortable sharing, what made it cringe rather than just inexperienced? And was there anything that could have been done differently?

I’m interested in starting a broader discussion about dom/sub dynamics within femdom and FLRs.

What topics do you think deserve more nuance or deeper conversation? For example: how power shows up in daily life, consent over time, emotional labor, authority vs. care, or navigating imbalance in a healthy way.

If you’ve been in, or are currently in, an FLR, what aspects have felt the most misunderstood from the outside especially by newer subs or people just beginning to explore these dynamics?

As a direct ascendant of the. KING of Greenland I declared myself the rightful ruler yesterday and retook the throne in Nuuk!!

In honor of my domme, I sold it for 1 trillion doll hairs, 16 cattle, 42 sheep and 4 tons of bacala.

Just sent it by airmail to her home.

Hope this pleases Goddess. Nothing is too good for her.

So….it has came to my attention that this has never been said on this subreddit. I would like to be the first to say it. GO WATCH ONE PEICE. It’s a great way to take your mind off this (if you’re trying to quit). And it’ll be the best show you ever watch in your life.

Doms that have watched OP, please force your subs 🙂

FYI- it’s only 1 season 😜

When I’m thinking about the appeal of findom its hard for me to describe. Of course there is the subordination the hierarchy but you have this nearly all sub-dom dynamics. So what makes findom so special.

I guess the root is in the capitalistic system. Money is power and capitalism teaches us to seek both, so giving your money, your power, your freedom to another and that because you want to is a rebellious act. It makes you vulnerable but it frees you. Free from decision, free from chase of the capital, free from the expectations of society.

But capitalism also teaches us the exchange of goods and services. We are told to seek getting the most out of our money, as always looking for a unreachable optimum. Giving your money away without the expectation to get something is crazy in a capitalistic system and so it’s not surprising to feel shame. But giving without expecting return is not crazy, its devotion, its love its emotion. You shouldn’t be ashamed for devoting to another person you adore (unless you like to be ashamed) you should be proud. You express your feelings in a glorious way. You are rebellious, a warm and kind monolith in a cold and cruel world. You should love yourself just like you love others, you deserve it.

It took less than 30 seconds for chatGPT to generate this – I’m aware it’s an obvious fake but with more prompts it can be refined.