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I was with my co-workers and we were all just chatting and having fun, but then this guy brought up financial domination when he was making fun of another guy who said he was happy to pay taxes. It turns out a few of them knew what it is. One girl was asking a lot of questions and another of the women seemed to know a lot about it (she said she had seen a documentary – is there a findom documentary out there?) and the guy who had brought it up kept making jokes. I was so mortified, I acted dumb the whole time but I’d been drinking and I was so afraid I was really obvious. I felt like I must have been blushing. I managed not to admit to them that I was a finsub, in a drunken stupor, which is good, I’ll be able to make eye contact with them going forward, but still, what an awkward incident.

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What’s up guys. I joined Reddit not too long ago to check this community out and be around other people who understand this issue, because there really aren’t many people who get this stuff.

I’ve been a couple months since my last relapse, which is good considering I’ve spent thousands this year and I get triggered pretty easily. But l’ve done this so many times now. I’ll make it a couple months in, feel like I’m doing okay, and then I end up falling back into it.

At this point I honestly feel like I just don’t have the mental power. I’m really not trying to be negative about myself, but dommes are just simply more powerful than me with their minds, bodies, and intelligence. It feels like a losing battle, and I feel outmatched.

When I first got into findom, I thought the whole “women are superior” thing was just a phrase for roleplay and the fantasy of it. Now I without a doubt see why people say that.

Even just seeing attractive women in public increases my urges to relapse. Then that combined with my loneliness i get triggered easily. I’ve really tried staying busy, focusing on willpower, working out, eating better, stuff like that. It helps for a little while, but honestly it’s not helping as much as I thought it would.

I’m just wondering if anyone else has felt like they’ve come to the conclusion that maybe they just mentally aren’t strong enough to fight, or if this is more of a personal issue I need to approach differently?

Id like to pretend i have a friend. Like im in the friendzone of a cute lady friend. Someone i adore. Someone who might share the odd pretty selfie, knowing their teasing and enjoying the torture, all while coming across as a friend… id like to take an actual interest in someone, share the wins and celebrate them all while knowing im not on her level and never stand a chance…

Does that ever exist? Or even similar? On the side of softer domme maybe…

Or is it all, GFE/hard domme/unethical?

I wanna be a good boy for you! 31 M

feel so trash. ended up regretting something I once wished for. experienced something kink wise that I should’ve just left as a fantasy now I’m feeling bad and a bit hurt but it’s whatever I guess. just sad now

I used to indulge in femdom in general along with findom. I did this in a pro domme group who not explicitly mention findom but I’ve tipped as much as a session before and I used to even pay for many other things I won’t go into. Today it was close. I nearly booked a session and wanted to tip afterwards. I didn’t do either and resisted at the last minute. In the past it’s around this point that I normally relapse hard. The last time I was drained a lot.

It’s times like these when I remember what my therapist told me about self love. That I shouldn’t hate myself. At least I didn’t fail. At least I’m keeping it up. It’s hard. Not every day is easy. If you’re on the journey like me, good luck to you. I know how it feels. Keep going. Keep pushing.