I think I figured out what I like

So after much reflection and a significant break from findom, I think I figured out what I’m into. I’m curious if anyone else feels the same way.

The best way I can explain this is dominant princess.

Female led relationships are often like a queen-knight relationship. She is the leader and commander. He is the obedient servant, who derives a sense of pride and honor from fulfilling his duty well.

But what I like is more of a princess, to be pampered and spoiled, but that expects me to also be the provider and leader in a sense. I’m not some loser, I’m an educated professional with a lucrative career.

This extends to the bedroom. I have little interest in being slapped around, even less in having my nuts harmed. But boy oh boy do I love being relentlessly teased and denied. I think a real pillow princess is a lot of fun, and giving my partner pleasure is genuinely more rewarding to me than getting myself off. (My thinking is this is the natural biological order of things which is why women can climax many times while men only once)

So one can see where I’d be into findom. But I never really wanted someone to control my finances. I just think it’s hot to buy shoes for entitled pretty girls, cuz it lights up my shame-arousal association circuit. But the financial spoiling is just a small facet of the Bossy Princess archetype that really turns me on.