Why do irl findom girls only let me message on Snapchat but freak out on iMessage? Happened twice now. TL;DR at bottom.

Throwaway for obvious reasons. I’m a 36M client in paid dynamics with younger women (early 20s) who present as financial dominants. Twice now with different girls, the same pattern has happened: • They’re fine with constant Snapchat communication — voice notes, photos, teasing, everything flows. • The moment I send anything on iMessage (even something mild), they either ignore it, get angry, or say “don’t text me there.” • Both times, the “not sexual” boundary gets repeated a lot, even though the dynamic is very intimate and money-focused. My previous findoms best friend had a falling out who casually mentioned that the previous girl in a similar setup actually had a boyfriend the whole time — she told clients she was single and led me on to believe she was but kept iMessage clean because her boyfriend had access to it (shared iCloud, family plan, or just reads her phone).

She stated calling me daddy as first then as soon as she had a boyfriend she stopped.

Now the current girl is doing the exact same thing: Snapchat all day, iMessage radio silence or defensive. My question: Is this common in findom/pay dynamics? Do a lot of girls keep iMessage “safe” because a boyfriend/ex/parent can see it, while Snapchat feels private because messages disappear and there’s no cloud backup? Does their bf have access to the laptop or something ?

It feels like the boyfriend (or someone close) has access to iMessage but not Snapchat, so they push all client talk there. Anyone else experienced this? TL;DR: Two different findom girls only allow contact on Snapchat, freak out or go silent on iMessage. Suspect it’s because a boyfriend has access to iMessage but not Snapchat. Is this a common thing in paid dynamics?