Sunk Cost Fallacy

Sometimes I wonder if findom is right for me. Finding the right domme is definitely difficult and can be exhausting because vetting, getting to know someone, figuring out if its a good match.

That and initial tributes and the expectation for me to pay just to talk to someone makes me very careful.

Im not a fan of initials, just because im not a session seeker and instead hope to cultivate a dynamic. I know I know, this is findom, but I grew up in a low income household and getting your money’s worth has been drilled into me. Id say part of my success came from making smart choices as I graduated debt free and have started putting money in my 401k. And sending initials into the void once taught me that people who ask for them aren’t compatible with my flavor of findom. Which is fine and dandy, we all like different things.

But most importantly, it feels like a waste of time trying to look. My last domme and I lasted a year before we both wanted different things (she found a loving boyfriend). Since then, due to unsuccessful searches, I think I may be better off spending time looking for something irl or using my time for other things, simply because I’ve been putting in and investing time, and things haven’t bore fruit.

Findom is fun, but the search is time consuming.

(Seems like a lot of subs feel the same way based on comments)