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Many Girls who present themselves as Dommes often say they are “here for the kink” and genuinely enjoy the Domme/sub dynamic. They emphasize their love for the lifestyle and the connection it creates. However, a common pattern is that when financial support or gifts stop coming, these accounts often go inactive or get deleted, and communication abruptly ends.

This raises a key question: if the passion for kink truly drives them, why does their interest disappear when the money stops? Genuine Dommes who are truly invested in the kink lifestyle remain engaged regardless of financial gain because their commitment goes beyond money.

Now im not saying that the money is not a big thing but is it everything ??

Many who vanish once payments cease are more focused on quick financial gain than a sincere connection to kink. While making money is a valid choice, it becomes misleading when it’s disguised as genuine enthusiasm for the lifestyle. This causes frustration and mistrust among subs seeking authentic dynamics rather than transactional relationships

Back at work, day dreaming about findommes and the unique high of sending.

Why is it literally all I can think off and the hottest thing imaginable??

I am obsessed with women’s boots! The idea of being made to lick them clean or being trampled, stomped and jumped on by them while a domme makes me send to her omg. Even better, if multiple dommes are doing it to me at once! Imagine a group of 5 friends all with their feet up making me lick clean the soles of their boots while I send to EACH of them. Omg group findom is THE BEST. Just a sub on a kink rant here lol

The bass thumped a rhythm through the polished floors of the penthouse suite, a sound that seemed to sync directly with the pulse in your throat. The air was thick with the scent of expensive perfume, spilled champagne, and the clean, sharp tang of masculine arousal. This was the Cuckold’s Gala, an exclusive gathering where roles were not just suggested but enforced. Everywhere you looked, a tableau played out: a statuesque wife, her body barely contained by sheer black lace and satin, would laugh and run a scarlet-tipped nail down the chest of a naked, well-hung bull. Her husband, equally nude but with a frame that spoke more of diligence than dominance, would scurry back from the bar with a fresh tray of cocktails, his eyes fixed on the floor as he offered them up. The bulls were the center of attention, their cocks thick and heavy, tools of pleasure for the adorned women who worshipped them.

My own place in this ecosystem was clear. I am a husband, a helper. My cock was a whisper here, invisible in the roar of masculine prowess on display. My task for the last hour had been restocking ice, my nakedness a uniform of subservience. But my attention kept drifting towards the hallway beyond the main play area. Down that corridor, behind a heavy velvet rope, was “The Sanctuary.” A hushed murmur and the occasional high, feminine giggle leaked out, drawing the gazes of men like me. That was where she was, a goddess, the findomme who offered a different kind of release at the swinger party. For a $2000 entry fee, a husband could enter her room, worship her perfect, lingerie-clad form from a distance, and be granted permission to spill his inadequate seed onto a black marble altar near her feet. A quick, shameful, and terribly expensive relief from the tension of the party.

The findom was less about the body and more about the wallet. A digital ledger projected on the wall displayed a running tally of contributions, each transfer a public declaration of inadequacy. The goal was to fund the wives’ next luxury getaway, all expenses paid by the men who couldn’t satisfy them.

Another year fully immersed in being a full-time financial submissive. Another year of spending a staggering amount on my dommes. Tried to keep track as best I could, but this breakdown doesn’t include all the dinners/activities, hotel rooms, or plane tickets. Also not included are over 200k frequent flier points that my owner has access to and uses at will. Below is the breakdown

Gifts for my owner: $73,809.55

Cash to my other 2 dommes: Approx $65,000 +/- 5%

Credit Card spend of my domme who has her own CC that I gave her: $27,359.94

Close to 170k, not including the miles and other incidental things I mentioned above. Absurd, I know, but this is where we are at. So, over 200k all in.

I want to start by saying that everyone is different and that what is a green flag to me may be a red flag for others. But I am curious how other’s see this so I hope this can start a useful discussion.

Please note: I serve a single dominant at the moment and do not seek anyone else. Please do not respond to this post in any way offering your services for taking my money or otherwise as a dominant.

So without further ado, here are the green flags I look out for in a findom arrangement:

• Posts consistently and do not have long breaks in posting: Long breaks to me are like ghosting. I’m looking for someone who enjoys the dynamic AND the money. If you need the money today and tomorrow find someone who gives it to you, then disappear for months, I would feel like you might just be desperate for the cash at the moment, rather than enjoy the benefits it may give you.
• Posts selectively: If you send the same image to 20 or more subreddits every day or every few hours I likely lose confidence that you are genuinely seeking a connection. Imagine dating someone in the vanilla world and using a dozen dating apps. I want you to use the one or maybe 3 places that most fit the dynamic you are after. It tells me something about how we may relate to each other.
• Goes beyond the visual thirst trap: It’s absolutely fine if 90% of what you post are thirst traps. I get it I’m a guy and sometimes pretty shallow. Yet I do feel much more drawn to someone who can express what and why they enjoy this dynamic through clever post titles and the odd more reflective text post or comment.
• Understands Pro-Domme and Findom are different things: I am not saying that a findomme cannot be a pro-domme and that the two don’t naturally go hand in hand. But a dominant should understand the difference. I may seek someone who is using this to make a living, but I may also seek someone just because they enjoy the dynamic, but are open to give more time than their daytime job makes them.
• Accepts Budgets: A good findom accepts that I have a budget. I always pay for their time negotiating, even if nothing comes off it. I will always communicate my budget upfront. But I need them to accept that budget.
• Findom is usually one of many kinks we want tickled: I consider it important to understand that whilst findom is a kink, it’s by far not my only kink and that addressing nothing but findom is likely not going to end up in a dynamic that I’ll find enjoyable.
• Stops at signs of deteoriating mental health and loss of control: It’s all fun role playing about home wrecking and giving my last cent, but in reality we seek an outlet from our stressful lives and I need to feel with a dominant that if they see serious harm being done by a spiralling submissive, then they do stop.

So I’m curious what other green flags you all would love to share.