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hii everyone, sorry in advance if this isnt the correct sub to do this question.

So i(20m) want to ask my gf(21f) if she could have a more domiant role when we have sex, she already is bit dom but she gets softer as we are doing it, i would love if she could be more dominant when she feels like dominating. being more strict and use me as the sub i can be/am, i want to pleasure her, want to be used by her and so on. She dont watch porn or consumes any content like that, she reads smut and thats it, i was thinking about sending her a link/storie that contains femdom so she could read it.

Is this a good aproach? and am i being too self centred?

sorry for the misspelling xoxo

is there any good, quieter gentle femdom themed songs sang from the perspective of the submissive man?

Hi I’ve been into findom for a very short time, but I have seen its very complicated to find a place where i can post for a certain type of kinks (such as fincuck and others) , some because of karma and others dont allow it, is there a place where you can do this or something similar?

Findom addiction is a powerful and complex dynamic where submissives feel drawn to worship and financially serve a dominant woman. It’s not simply about giving money or gifts it’s about the intense emotional experience of surrendering control and recognizing her as an untouchable, superior figure. This dynamic creates a sense of devotion and submission, where even small acknowledgments from the dominant can feel deeply rewarding.

Many find it addictive because the emotional high from being owned or can override practical concerns, leading to continued financial devotion even when it’s difficult or harmful. The power exchange often makes submissives feel lucky just to be accepted, which fuels the desire to give more and deepen the connection.

However, findom can become dangerous when financial boundaries are ignored, especially if someone is struggling with basic expenses. Despite the risks, the psychological pull of this dynamic remains strong, driven by the need for connection, control surrender, and validation within the findom relationship. This explains why it can be so hard to step away, even when it causes personal hardship

Hey guys,

We hear all the time about like the same boring generic stuff that even I partake; “What are your kink?” “Chastity, drain games, Feets, fucking fluffy furry ir whatnot”

But, I know speaking for myself, I have a very big mental kink, and it’s something that I’ve only shared once or twice because I’ve never met someone with a brain similar to mine YET (when i was sexually active I thought kinks were for 50 years old couples that weren’t attracted to eachother anymore and needed to spice things up) but now that im in my mid 30s, aware that i’m not getting younger, I have decided that I wouldn’t limit myself to boring sex anymore.

This kink of mine sparked in my brain while viewing a very good movie called “The Decline of the American Empire” which is a movie from my area that was release originally in french canadian in 1986 from Denys Arcand (Les Invasions Barbares)

So there’s a scene where one of the actor, who’s a history teacher in university, goes to get a happy ending inside a good old Canadian Rub N Tug. As he walks into the room, the girl comes in and begins to wash him and prepare him, and she’s talking about the state of our society today, with the upcoming of the millenial gap (2000) and just talking about history in general, while the dude is just silent, listening to her, rock hard. After this session, he’s never able to have sex again without simultaneously having a history lesson with his partner, because he’s like a self declared intelect (polite way to call a Nerd in the 80s)

Well, one day, I also met a very intellectual person, and just out of the blue, she begins to talk to me about history I think like the romans or something, while also describe a scene where she was dominating me. It would go like; “🤓When Hannibal brought his force and elephants to the gate of Rome, by then his army were old and most had died. Now imagine I was curling up my little finger inside your ass, gently rubbing your prostate. It was already too late for Hannibal, as this time the Roman raised 2 legions and went to meet Hannibal at the battle of Zama, which lasted 14 years. Now as I’m rubbing your little g spot, I’m going to begin to hently tickle your frenulum with the tip of my thumb, and I don’t want to hear you cry like a baby. That was the end of Hannibal, which was followed by the destruction of Carthage, a city that was annihilated so badly the romans poured salt everywhere to make sure it would never be able to rise again. Are you going to cum, or do I need to take my finger out and out a 8inch dildo up your arse?”

Anyway, the history kink was created. I LOVE talking about history while partaking into kinky activity. I know this is a highly unusual kink, and it’s also in a completely different category as well, but I’m sure I’m not the only one I mean, our brain IS the most exciting sexual organ, so obviously I’m sure you guys find various ways to stimulate it, but has anyone got an example of something that has absolutely NOTHING to do with sex, and yet they programmed their brain to get excited when it’s mixed?

I’m sure some of yall are gona ask; no I don’t get randomly hard when someone talks about the Romans…..but, if its a hot woman, with the dominant aura or sexy librarian aura, and she’s talking about history but like in a sensual way… yes, I do get hard, and I always replay that scene in my head (and many more to come I’m sure)

Anyone else wants to share their weird mental kink tonight? Come on!!

See title, looking for to find more lowkey dommes who aren’t the usual suspects who’re posting.

My new thing to say to Dommes who say “again” or “double it” is “I’m into findom, not boredom.”

So many dommes always say stuff like “oh maybe you need something long term” nope I don’t. I’m so honest and I’m not reliable for that, I’m not a consistent sender. I do send but I can’t have a routine of when that’s going to be, I’m impulsive, my sends are spontaneous and my moods are too so there can sometimes be a week or two when I don’t send but then there will be 4 days in a row where I’m sending more than usual. It really has no pattern and I can’t guarantee weekly payments it’s not my thing.

I’m self aware and I’m honest about it. I prefer to be a community sub tbh anyway and not stick to one domme or be “owned”. That’s just me though

dommes get so mad about time wasting subs but be honest, it comes with the territory of online findom. a lot of subs are lonely, depressed, stressed, unstable and/or something else. that doesnt excuse time wasting but its just how subs here are, unstable, unreliable. btw when a sub wastes a dommes time hes also wasting his own time too. this fantasy of a put together, reliable, generous sub who is mentally and emotionally stable is more mythical than a unicorn