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I am sub doing masters I told my domme my budget would be low and they accepted but I told them I will do extra stuff whenever possible … I sent all my summer job savings and after that they asked when I might be able to send again I said I’m doing thesis and big sends will come after I find a job and I even helped them find another sub and now they just ghosted me .. everything was good like blackmail how extreme they were etc it’s just shocking that passionate dommes can leave if they find a high paying sub.. I think shouldn’t do a lower budget arrangements but I’m hopelessly addicted and want this forever . I feel like honestly communicating never helps me either

So I’ve been through this all and had an idea in my head about what its all supposed to be like. I’m not sure if it’s changed but now everything feels so loose and modern and fast. A session goes by kinda quick and I’m realizing that it could be that what findom is now just isn’t for me and really I need femdom in a different way. The fantasy of it all always brings me back but maybe I’m at a point where I need to focus my fantasies somewhere I fit in better.

Some of you have seen my posts, here’s the history

https://www.reddit.com/r/paypigsupportgroup/s/z5YcjfONtl

Context: My wife is my findom. We have separate accounts and I send her my entire paychecks while paying for our expenses with my savings. The goal is to eventually have only my personal emergency fund + retirement left.

More recently we had a few fights over her wasting money buying designer bags. I’ve now come to see I was wrong to try to control her spending her own money.

She then made a big deal about how I made her sign the prenup before marriage and how if I really wanted to be findomed the I should setup alimony in a postnup. After thinking it over, I think she’s right.

The postnup is going to establish that she gets 50% of my income as alimony for life. I highly doubt that’s allowed but we will see what the lawyers say.

She even added that she wishes it was more than 50% because “you don’t need that much money to survive”. We don’t know of a legal way to go over, and I’m not against doing that if there was a way. Anyone creative in this subreddit have any idea please share.

And in case anyone is wondering, NO we are not considering a divorce. She is very happy with me and me with her.

Sometimes you have to take a step back so you can make 2 forwards. That’s the case with findom for me as well, it seemed impossible but i’m at 2 weeks no sending and it feels good. It feels good that i overcame the urges to send everyday, even though i still miss it every day. All it took was for me to go completely broke,,, while that’s a bad thing it made me realize that i should focus on myself more and prioritize my own future. As i said, i still think about it everyday and it feels lonely to not talk to any dommes but it’s for the better. Dommes have approached me and now i finally have the voice in my head that tells me it’s not worth it… it always starts with just €20… maybe just once more… before you know it you’ve sent €150 in 1 hour.

I got some really helpful tips from community members and i am very grateful for the help.

If i can do it you can do it too, but only if you truly want to.

Like when a domme has $90 in her account and wants $10 to round her up.

Thats me, extremely strange and boring I know but that’s my thing.

Hello everyone. Just sharing some of my shower thoughts regarding findom and being a paypig from a subs perspective.

1. Findom is one of the best forms of power exchange. Every single time you send to your domme, you’re not sending her only your money, but the time, effort and energy it took to earn that money. Essentially, you are giving her your life basically. Is there a better way to show your love and admiration for someone? After all, love is a sacrifice.

2. You’re making the better gender happy. Or amused. Or horny. Or all three. This one is self explanatory. Don’t you want that?

3. You are giving that money to someone who knows better. Majority of us here spend too much money on stupid things, realistically speaking. No way that PS4 game and 6 pack of beer is more important than the pair of shoes she likes, or her date, or a coffee with friends. By sending you’re essentially putting that money to best use.

4. You will likely never feel fulfilled without findom. If you’re here, you’ve probably sent before or you intend to send. Deep down you know yourself that you want this and no matter how many times you go [deleted] you’ll always come back.

So, my word of advice to every sub reading this is to go and send to her. Fulfill your purpose and your role in the society.

Much love to everyone!