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This is something I’d like to start for everyone in here!

Tells us how you’re doing,ask,questions advice etc!

I’ve told myself time and time again I need to quit. Specifically because I am in a relationship and I feel like that’s shitty of me( I know it is) but for some reason it’s like the urge just won’t go away and I have like zero self control to actually stop. Why is it so hard to quit?

I hope this is allowed

I’ve always been very interested in femdom. I was introduced to it by someone that I went to school with. Since then, I’ve wanted to get back into but didn’t know how to find anyone who would be interested without scaring them. Recently, I’ve gotten back on seeking but this time around, I don’t really know why, but I made my profile about how I want someone who will worship me, blah blah. I wasn’t really thinking much into and I figured people would just pass me up. Well I had a lot of men reach out to me that were “interested”. We switched to texting and none of them wanted to answer any questions or go into the actual details of what they were wanting. So what I mean is one was interested and he asked what I’d want as an allowance. I answered that it would depend on how often we’d be seeing each other basically what would make the most sense for the dynamic he was wanting. I guess that was too much for him to think about and he replied with “well best”. I asked another to explain something that he said and he responded basically that he didn’t want to have to explain everything he said. Which was weird because this was the first thing I’d asked him to explain.

Anyway, is it me wanting to go into to much detail that or is it them not wanting to explain what they’re wanting, the issue here? I think that going into detail about what we are both wanting, etc is very important for relationships like this. Can yall let me know if I’m crazy for thinking this. I think that maybe I could change the way I bring up wanting to talk about details more but, ultimately that conversation does need to happen. Please help!

Ok wild first message from me but in my defence I was 6 beers deep and I assumed it was maybe just another one of Arty’s alt accounts – or another one of you trolls 🤣

Also I claimed incoherence then have a typo 🤦🏻‍♂️

I know some of you are already familiar with this Reddit roast page.

https://reddit-wrapped.kadoa.com/

It’s currently been updated to give a 2025 wrapped. Funny as always.

I’m trying to debug my own brain here.

I’ve noticed a pattern in my sessions. When I send and get a generic ‘Good boy’ or ‘Thank you’, the dopamine spike is mediocre. It feels transactional. Like I bought a service.

But on the rare occasions I’ve sent to someone who just… saw it, took it, and didn’t even acknowledge my existence? The rush is insane. It triggers that feeling of being totally beneath them, like my money is theirs by default and doesn’t warrant a reaction.
Is this just standard masochism or is there a specific psychological term for craving the absence of validation? It feels counter-intuitive to pay for silence, yet it’s the only thing that feels ‘real’ lately.

For those with this or a similar fetish how do you manage with findom?

Do you find the cuck (or bull) and present yourselves to findom as a pair?

Do you find the findom and ask her if she has anyone in her sphere who is a cuck (or bull)?

Bonus question, do you talk to the cuck (or bull) in between sessions?

For me, the second point makes the difference between empty fantasy and real dynamism.