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Today I had the absolute misfortune of being contacted by someone who claimed she was 19. Within a few minutes of looking at her profile, I was able to figure out her real name, the high school she attends, her mother’s name, and even her TikTok account. She may or may not have been a minor but i’m definitely not sending to a damn high schooler.

That was deeply uncomfortable, and honestly alarming.

I cannot believe this needs to be said, but please do not use your real name on kink accounts. Do not reuse usernames from vanilla social media. Do not link accounts together. Do not overshare personal details that make you easily identifiable.

This is not just about privacy. It is about safety and legality. You may think you are being transparent or authentic, but in reality you are making it incredibly easy for strangers to identify you, and in some cases, for adults to unknowingly be put in serious legal jeopardy.

If you are under 18, you should not be anywhere near adult spaces. If you are over 18, protect yourself and others by keeping your kink presence anonymous.

Please take this seriously. It only takes one interaction to create a situation you do not want to be in.

i have been trying to quit fd ever since my old domme quit. it’s been a struggle with ups and downs but was pleasantly surprised to have her come back into my life. she pushed me to lapse and it felt so good. i am back and owned again

Just something I’ve been wondering. If there’s any particular line of work that draws in (or maybe creates) guys like us. I feel like software guys are overrepresented. It’s also just a natural question with a kink so related to money.

A time of reflection is upon us.

Time to contemplate the new year.

What are your aspirations for it?

Do you want to quit?

Find a domme?

Dump a domme and find another?

Spend a year in chastity?

Double your sends?

Let’s here it!

So I had this bratty Domme who knew how to push all my buttons. It was a match made in heaven. Well, I lost my job at Sears and she wasn’t going to let this stop me from being her wallet.

She knew a shady Doctor based out of West Xylophone who was into harvesting body organs. TLDR, one flight later and BOOM! I gave my kidney up and all that sweet cheddar went to her.

Even though we don’t talk anymore I still have the scar that looks like Zorro did a drive-by to remind me of her forever.

For anyone with time off work or just looking to kill time or their liver, I propose a new drinking game.

Take a shot anytime anyone says

• Relapse
• Soft
• Ethical / unethical
• Send
• Payday
• Tribute
• Time waster
• Scam

Finish your drink if anyone posts they are looking for something super vague or ultra specific

• If they say mommy / daddy

• If anyone comments that a budget will help

Gonna have to fucking…hide my post and comment history after this one…

I’ve been sick of findom for awhile. But I’m addicted, well and truly addicted.

And I decided, in the midst of another shitty relapse. I said fuck it. I’m counting. I’m counting eveey goddamn penny I’ve sent in the name of this shitty kink.

I couldn’t count everything. I started in 2023 and my banks statements only go to the start of 2024.

But I can tell you this much. Between January 2024, and December 2025. I, through findom on Throne, Paypal, OnlyFans, Steam, Amazon and conversion fees. Spent £16,882.37

That is. Unironically. Over 50% of my entire life savings as a 23 year old.

I need to fucking quit… I need to make a time machine and not fucking start I just-…

where do you even fucking go from here?